Have you noticed that all of us are on the search for everlasting happiness? I wanted to write about this from the perspective of decluttering and organising and what I’ve observed with my clients and for myself.
Identifying Feeling States
When organising a space, it’s important to identify what you want from each room and the activities you want to do in there. It should encompass what you want to see in your family, fitness, finances, career and friendships. It ultimately reflects your vision for life.
So, when identifying the vision for your home, ask yourself what is it that you want to feel like in that room? (Rather than thinking about the end goal). For example, your goal might be, “I want to do yoga in here”. Whereas your vision is, “I want to be able to feel calm and relaxed in this room. I want to feel like there’s ample space to do yoga”. Identifying this feeling state will let you know when you’ve succeeded in decluttering and organising this room.
Accepting It As It Is
There’s nothing you can do about what has happened in the past. All we can do is look at what is in front of us now and accept responsibility for it, even if it sucks.
Accept yourself and your situation unconditionally. The decisions you have made (and make) are the best decisions you could have made based on your situation.
To accept yourself where you are now, you might need to unpack the ‘crap’. Understand and delve deep into the feelings of discomfort and be honest with yourself about why you’re feeling that. This is so deeply true in the decluttering process. Often my clients feel discomfort, fear, anger, frustration, overwhelm and sadness in a session. That’s why they turn to a Professional Organiser to support them through this process.
Decluttering and organising isn’t just about getting rid of stuff, rubbish, unwanted items. It’s delving into feelings, memories, relationships and a deep view of who we are as an individual. These items often reflect who we are.
When you part with that shirt that pulls on your heartstrings, you’re often saying goodbye to a lesson, a memory or an idea of who you are. You could be letting go of negative experiences, malignant feelings, a relationship or a negative belief about yourself.
Acceptance and Everlasting Happiness
So if happiness is about acceptance, how can we use this knowledge to feel happiness in our home?
- Understand what you want to ‘feel’ in a room, rather than just assessing the physical change you want to see. This will help you stick to your vision.
- Be gentle with yourself. Accept yourself for where you’re at. It’s ok to ask for help if you need some support or guidance to get started.
- Have courage and unpack the ‘crap’. That might include literally going through the ‘stuff’ around your house. As you do, you’ll find you cleanse yourself of feelings and limitations you’ve placed on yourself.
To me, each and everyone one of my clients seeks everlasting happiness. It starts with external surroundings. They’re looking to support themselves with a positive environment. It then turns to happiness within themselves. It allows them to turn their attention to their vision.
What is everlasting happiness to you? How do you connect to the happy feelings within yourself?